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Consensual BDSM is not abuse. Fifty Shades IS.

Posted by Emma and Natalie on April 27, 2014 at 12:50 AM Comments comments (0)

I have a few reservations about writing on the subject of BDSM.  I openly admit that I've never personally been involved in the scene and am therefore what many would term "vanilla."  Discussing an aspect of life that I'm largely unfamiliar with is difficult and I'm conscious of the need to be as respectful and as accurate as possible.  With all of that in mind, I'd like to talk frankly about why BDSM is an inappropriate label for much of what happens in Fifty Shades.

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"Fifty Shades Is..." Let's Take Over Twitter!

Posted by Emma and Natalie on March 26, 2014 at 4:50 PM Comments comments (0)

We love all the support we've had on Twitter and we love that together, we're all joining as one to tell the world that abuse is NOT love.  But words are just one way of getting our message across and now it's time to get visual!!

We want you guys to help us to take over Twitter throughout the month of April.  We want to know what YOU think of Fifty Shades.  We have ...
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Letters To Ana/Christian (Part 4)

Posted by Emma and Natalie on March 22, 2014 at 12:35 AM Comments comments (0)

Happy Friday everyone!  Or indeed, happy whatever day it happens to be when you read this...

Throughout March, we've been posting letters to Ana and/or Christian from Fifty Shades, with the aim of giving you all a chance to have your voices and opinions heard.  Today, we're sharing a letter from @50shadesabuse founder, Natalie, who addresses Christian himself...


"Dear Christian,


You don’t fool m...

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Letters To Ana/Christian (Part 3)

Posted by Emma and Natalie on March 16, 2014 at 2:20 PM Comments comments (0)

Hello again, everyone!

Over the last couple of weeks, we've been publishing some of your letters to Ana/Christian from the Fifty Shades of Grey trilogy.  Tonight's letter is written by our account co-runner, Emma.  In her letter to Ana, she references her own experiences of sustained emotional abuse, so there is a trigger warning for some of the content.  

Please do keep those letters coming in and we'll post them on the blog!

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Letters to Ana/Christian (Part 2)

Posted by Emma and Natalie on March 6, 2014 at 2:10 PM Comments comments (0)

Hello again everyone!  Before we post the second of your amazing letters to the lead characters in Fifty Shades, we have a couple of little plugs:

1. Next month, we want to turn Twitter into a series of photos from our fabulous followers, telling the world what Fifty Shades is to them.  Please, please do get involved.  Here's how to go about it:

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Letters To Ana/Christian (Part 1)

Posted by Emma and Natalie on March 3, 2014 at 2:45 PM Comments comments (18)

Over the last few weeks, we've been asking our fantastic followers on Twitter and Facebook to email us with a letter written to either Ana or Christian from the Fifty Shades trilogy.  We told them they could write whatever they liked, from whatever perspective they wanted.  Throughout the month of March, we'll be posting these letters on our blog (usually anonymously, unless specifically asked to use the contributors' names).  Should you wish to get involved and are...

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The Cult of Fifty Shades?

Posted by Emma and Natalie on March 2, 2014 at 12:30 AM Comments comments (0)

Something happened on Twitter last night.  I (Emma) tweeted from my personal account that I had noticed that Christian Grey was trending and I lamented over women falling for such a manipulative, stalking, threatening character.  I had two responses from fans.

The first suggested that it's just "human nature" to find a man like Christian Grey attractive.  When I responded that actually, my survival instict is to naturally avoid someone who threaten...

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When You Wish For Your Own Christian Grey, What Are You Really Going To Get?

Posted by Emma and Natalie on February 23, 2014 at 3:05 PM Comments comments (93)

It's something we see on Twitter, Facebook and on blogs written by Fifty Shades fans, day in, day out.  "Oh how I wish I had my own Christian Grey."  But what are these people really wishing for?  A ridiculously handsome guy?  That's harmless enough.  A man ...

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Fifty Shades Is...

Posted by Emma and Natalie on February 14, 2014 at 11:50 AM Comments comments (0)

Hello again everyone!

We mentioned in yesterday's blog update that we're looking for ways to get our message - that Fifty Shades romanticises abusive behaviour - heard far and wide in the year leading up to the first film release.

March is still going to be our Letters to Ana/Christian month (check our last blog entry for details of how to get involved!), but we also know that a picture paints a thousand words.  So we're issuing you with a ...

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Get Involved With The 50 Shades Is Abuse Campaign!

Posted by Emma and Natalie on February 13, 2014 at 5:00 PM Comments comments (0)

Recently, quite a few of you have been asking how you can get more involved with 50 shades Is Abuse.  We LOVE that you're all itching to help us take a stand against abuse being romanticised as love and we've been scratching our heads as to how best to put your enthusiasm to good use!

After much thinking, we're proud to announce that March is going to be a month to get your creative juices flowing.  We'd like you to write a letter to either Ana or Christian ...

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