Helpful Links...

Posted by Emma and Natalie on February 5, 2015 at 2:55 PM


Hello and welcome to anyone who has discovered this website following Natalie's appearance on Newsnight. We realise domestic abuse is a difficult subject and the things Natalie mentioned may have been triggering to some viewers. Others may seek to validate the claims she made re abuse statistics. For that reason, we thought it would be helpful to provide some links to those abuse statistics and also to provide links to organisations that can help and support those experiencing domestic abuse themselves.


The statistic on young girls experiencing emotional abuse from a boyfriend by the age of 16 is here:

25% of adult women will experience some form of abuse from a male partner or ex partner at some point in her lifetime:


We appreciate the need to be factual when discussing such a sensitive issue, hence providing these links to the statistics used in tonight's broadcast.


If you have any concerns after watching tonight's show and wish to seek help or advice, here are some organisations that can assist you:


The National Domestic Abuse Helpline is run 24 hours a day and is free to call on 0808 2000 247. Or you can access their website

Abuse affects people of all ages.  For help, information and guidance tailored specifically for young people who are concerned that they may be experiencing abuse, or who are worried about their own behaviour towards their boy/girlfriend, the government's This Is Abuse website is a great resource:

If you are a male victim of abuse, or if you feel that you may be a perpetrator of abuse, Respect can help you ( Their free phone number for men who experience domestic abuse is: 0808 801 0327. You can gain advice online at:

If you are a man who is concerned that you are hurting the person you love, Respect's free helpline is reached on: 0808 802 4040. For online guidance and support, visit

If you are the friend or family member of someone you suspect is experiencing abuse, you can contact 1in4 Woman at

Finally, please remember to be safe online, especially if you are experiencing any form of abuse. Women's Aid has a guide on how to erase your internet history in order to remain safe, which is accessible here: Please use it if you feel that you are in danger, having visited any of the above websites, or indeed this one. Stay safe.


Once again, as always, thank you for the enormous support we've received, not only from those who've experienced domestic abuse, but from those members of the BDSM community, whose lifestyle has been so badly misrepresented in Fifty Shades of Grey. We couldn't do this without you.

If you would like to get involved in the Fifty Shades is Abuse campaign, we have various downloadable resources for you to use.  

We have a simple poster here:

There are postcards you can download here:

And a useful FAQ leaflet about our campaign is available here:

For more information about the protest we're hoping to arrange for the Fifty Shades of Grey UK film premiere, please click here:

We encourage anyone planning on seeing The Fifty Shades of Grey movie to consider donating the cost of a cinema ticket to their local abuse charity instead.  

To make a donation to your local branch of Women's Aid, click here:

To find your nearest rape crisis centre, visit:

Abuse is not a subject to be romanticised or trivialised.  Let's say no to abuse portrayed as romance.


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Reply Melissa
1:37 AM on February 6, 2015 
You tout that FSOG is abuse, but you approve of Twilight? Twilight romanticizes teenage girls being in love with someone who can't love them back and think its okay to go into suicidal depression over a masochistic vampire whose only goal was to seduce and then take total control of a young woman's life. FSOG is a FICTIONAL book. If you can't tell the difference between an instruction manual and a recreational read, then you need to have your head examined. Normal, HEALTHY people recognize that FSOG is for entertainment, not to be taken as real BDSM. Get a F*CKING CLUE!!!